Expectations...

"I expected you to do this!!"

"He didn't live up to my expectations."

"U expected too much from me."

"I wasn't expected to do this."

Everyone of us has heard at least one of these lines from someone or the other or has used these lines for someone or the other. You would be kidding yourself, if you deny this fact. Expectations!! It's such a "heavy" word. It's because of these expectations that we fight with our loved ones. It is these expectations that is the cause of all the worries in our lives. It is because of these expectations that we fall in love, try to build relationships, and wish to maintain them.

Wouldn't life be so simple if we don't have any expectations. But, thinking about it... would that be possible. I really dont know. I really dont know if i can ever do that. Having no expectations is beyond the scope of my intelligence...

But, wat i still can try doing is expecting something from somebody that, that somebody is expected to do. Complicated... yeah... even im confused ;)

Lets take an example: Person A sends to person B a gift. Person A is a very sensitive person, loves being appreciated, loves talking etc etc. Person B also a talkitive person, very easy going, basically happy-go-lucky types. Now, person A in such a situation would expect person B to call up n appreciate the gift. And, person B in such a situation would no doubt appreciate the gift but wouldn't think it is important to call up n carry on the formalities. Wats important for person B is that s/he felt good after getting the gift.

Now, person A after sending the gift has 2 options: 1) expect wat s/he expects person B to do i.e. person B calls up n appreciates person A...

or 2) expect wat person B is expected to do i.e. person B is happy with the gift but wouldn't call.

And, similary person B will have to options: 1) do wat person A expects him/her to do i.e. call up n thank him/her for the gift.

or 2) do wat s/he usually does i.e. not call

Now, lets try all the permutations and combinations:

Person A follows option 1 and Person B follows option 1: i.e. person A is expecting a call from person B and person B knows that person A loves being apperciated, calls up person A. Ahh!! person B understands person A so well.

Person A follows option 2 and Person B follows option 2: i.e. person A is not expecting person B to call because person A know it's not in his/her nature to call. And, person B doesnt call. Hmm, person A understands person B so well. This one's an ideal situation. (I don't know till when can person A handle such a thing)

Person A follows option 2 and Person B follows option 1: person A is not expecting a call and person B calls up. Wow, wat a surprise!! Life would be so much fun!!

Person A follows option 1 and Person B follows option 2: person A is expecting a call and person B doesn't call up. Beware, it's a war!!!

So, in life we can have so many options. We can choose anyone of them. It can make life easy or it can make it tough. Ultimately it all depends on us. And the best option would be to expect wat the other person is expected to do. It tough no doubt, but possible.